No they aren’t so why do the gays want it? Because they want control and they want to force themselves into our religious rites.
Because your religious rite is not everyone else’s religious rite, this is America, we don’t have to have a religion at all, and they really don’t have to stay in that religion forever, and depend on it to decide on their divorce and property rights and child custody, for instance an FLDS woman.
There is legal marriage, and then there are religions that don’t agree with American law, the FLDS for instance, or the 4 wife Muslims, or gay churches.