You think the male leadership of the Catholic church are husbands and boyfriends and dads, just like the men who are members of an all male fraternity or lodge?
The leadership of the Catholic church vows to never go home to a woman as a mate, to never know a woman, the only other male clubs that come close to that, are homosexual clubs, and I doubt if they require an oath, they would just be a little puzzled if one of their gay members had sex with a female.
no
they vow no sex
not no sex with a woman
why can’t you get the distinction