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Interesting, my case isn’t to the scope of the ones in that trailer, but I figured out very fast, as soon as I interacted with her atty that this was going to end badly... To top it off the guy was one of the most incompetent boobs I’ve ever met in my life.. (at least half a dozen times he made procedural mistakes that I could have taken her to the cleaners on had I truly desired to harm her) I have been around atty’s my entire life, father is one, and sniffed this guy out as a bottom third of his class within the first meeting.... So, Not only was he just out for confrontation for no reason, he was completely incompetent to boot, so I had to pay my attorney even more to basically deal with his ineptitude. But of course I can’t fire him, even though indirectly I was paying for him.

Family Law is fundamentally broken, for what was my situation, to still be dragging on 3+ years later, is ludicrous. The thing should have been a no fault, $300 and done deal, at most some quick arbitration to settle a few minor issues, instead its been 3 years and more money than most people make in a year, and turned an uncomfortable situation that could have at least survived into one where I will never ever trust at any level the mother of my children again. She got a horrible attorney, and listened to every idiotic thing that he told her, and because of this, a relationship of nearly 20 years, which sadly came to an end, is to a point it will never be salvaged. It shouldn’t have and had no need to come to this point, there was literally NOTHING to fight over.

However the court system offers no recourse to end pointless fighting. And the kicker of it all is, we literally never went into a courtroom, I can’t imagine dealing with a truly contested divorce, where you literally do need to enter a courtroom to plea your case.

From separation to decree was 2 and 1/3 years, and there was no need for it. Even now to this day a year+ after the decree its still not fully over, because the amount of the retirement that’s hers, that we all agreed to over a year ago when we finally got the decree has not been transferred because her attorney is still fighting that I should pay any tax liability on it if she were to cash it out.... The money has been sitting waiting to transfer to her for over a year, yet here we still are... and I am prisoner to this lunacy.