Are you mad at your father in law?
He chose to smoke.
Save your umbrage for the people in life who disappoint you.
And may G-d bless you.
Not sure how to respond. My father in law is dead, how does umbrage toward him help him or me?
As for choice, we all participate in the choices of smokers to one degree or another. We subsidize the farmers who choose to grow tobacco. We pay for the treatment of smoking related illnesses of the poor and elderly (who choose to spend money we give them for food on cigarettes), either through our income taxes or higher Obamacare premiums. We make statements about how wonderful it is to be free to pursue the happiness that some delude themselves into thinking comes from tobacco. And we all turn a blind eye to how easy it is for young people to fall into the clutches of addiction.
But hey, I’m just a guy with a keyboard. People can take or leave what I have to say. I call it like I see it, and others can decide whether and how they wish to respond.
BTW, from my own personal experience, umbrage changes very few minds, and even fewer hearts.
God Bless you and have a joyful Christmas.