He wasn't dying for his family - he was dying just to die. His living family at that moment was his wife and his other child, and he was hurting them by running into that fire, not helping. While I acknowledge that this man, and also your husband, may allow their emotions to prevail over their better judgement, for your sake and his family's sake it's good that an observer with better judgment is sometimes able to intervene. My position would be "My life is MY property, to be expended in whatever manner I choose".