[Betty Jane]

I 'm the parent of one of those seven kids who didn't drink in high school. Probably won't ever; she's seen enough drunken behavior to last a long time. But if my kid had driven a drunk friend home, I would be proud of her. If she brought the kid to my house, I'd call the parents to let them know he or she was drunk, but safe and staying the night. They could deal with their kid the next day. If the school tried to discipline mine for keeping her friend safe, I'd be on the phone with a lawyer willing to sue the bastards.

If my kid was given a ride home because she was drunk, I would thank the friend for getting her home safely and discipline my kid for underage drinking. Unless the drinking was at a school function or on school property, the incident does not concern the school. The onus for my child's behavior is on me, not them.

[workerbee]

Re #83 --- thank you, absolutely wonderful response.

When my husband got home from work, I told him about this thread and we both essentially said just what you said. We discussed it from both sides -- parents of the drinking kid, parents of the driving kid. You sum it up perfectly: The onus for my child's behavior is on me, not them.

[workerbee]

I should add, my husband has a lot of alcoholism in his family and NEVER drank at all in HS or college.