“we don’t start with the negatives first when we’re trying to convert people.”
And yet Jesus never held back on the negatives. Neither should we.
What could you possibly know about Jesus's infinite mind? What Jesus held back on, and what he didn't? You think you're qualified to judge as Jesus judged? YOU?!
What about this:
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times." - Matthew 18:21-22
Yet from that teaching you still leap to condemn in Jesus's name?
Your arrogance is breathtaking. Your lust to damn others shames you.
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. - Matthew 7: 1-5
Jesus knew you and yours, and he warned you to back off:
“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?’ Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’" - Matthew 7: 21-23