Wake up every day with a goal and do not go to sleep until you achieve it.
Wash, rinse and repeat for 50 years or so.
You have to live your life with purpose, but you also must enjoy where you are on the way to where you are going.
Many people live their life based on the shame-based controlling emotions of guilt, anger, greed, envy or jealousy; they have to use other people to make them feel better, or use others to take it out on-or both.
Just my 2cents...