The same thing happened to me back in the Liberty City riots in Miami a long time ago. I worked at FIU and had several black co-workers I thought were my friends. Boy what an eye opener that turned out to be. I got over my white guilt pretty quickly after that. It never changes.
On the other hand there also remains those of the white community who are still indeed racists. So the desire to overlook ones culture , race, etc. is never going to be altogether resolved....and should it be?
I ask that question because I do believe that God “set” people where he intended them to be, and their culture. But men of the world have continually attempted to integrate the races and cultures as one, one way or another..and always creates conflicts....all the way back to Biblical times.
I think it's naive to think people of various cultures and race can live together ‘without’ conflict. Regardless that the USA wants to be known as the “melting pot” among nations.,,,what is coming here today is NOT those who desire to become American...they desire to bring and establish their own culture here, as some have done from past generations, but they are not interested in assimilating here....rather to change our nation to something it is not.