As a retired ABE (catapults and arresting gear type), I've seen thousands of arrested landings on a aircraft carrier.
The process is a bit different since they're trying to snag a wire, but if the pilot isn't with in the parameters they'd get a wave off.
At what point should/would the tower or pilot have realized that he was in trouble? (Hopefully not too late)
Is there a point where a wave off would/should have been advised?
How's that work in civil aviation ?
In your series of how many? Anecdotal evidence doesn’t cut it, but you are certainly entitled to your opinion.