Private school or move out of state.
People want to argue that they are entrenched property and family wise and cannot just move, I submit yes you can.
I agree. Time has come to put your complaints into action. If you don’t like it and cannot change it (as it appears that changing things is well nigh impossible), get out.
Get out now. As soon as you can. Move your entire extended family if you have to.
Don’t feed the animals.