Easier said than done, obviously. :) Not sure what's irritating you, but sincerly hope tomorrow is a better day for you.
What “irritates” me is that Christians often carry in the back of their mind a picture of the fundamentally impossible when critiquing humanity... the couldas, shouldas, wouldas. This is at root an appeal to self pride. Self pride can only do one thing and it’s to fail miserably.
And in a way it’s difficult and in a way it’s easy!
It involves the pride busting process of giving up, both on the prideful efforts and upon the mistaken value systems that encouraged the pride. The second thing is less intuitive because we’ve grown up from birth in pride.
There’s a reason why the whores got into heaven quicker than the Pharisees.