Re your post #2, have you considered the possibility that one could save and invest enough money to have no need for someone to take care of you in your old age?
I’ve never understood that plan to use your offspring to care for you. It’s using them for your own selfish good.
I guess you think doing what families have done for thousands of years is “selfish”. Maybe you think excluding gays from marriage is also selfish?
And who is to say those kids would take care of you?
One of my mother’s friends was dying of breast cancer. Her son rarely visited her and she had to rely on friends for help. After she died, her son moved into her home, moved her ex-husband into her home and blew through everything she spent her life earning and accumulating within a few years.
Paid strangers generally won’t take care of you with the same love and tenderness that your kids and grandkids will.
All manner of things to lift and tote, mostly simple stuff, but the stuff of life and family. My father was a great shopper and taught each of my children how to coupon and how to select the best meats, fruits and vegetables. How to tell if a cantelope or watermelon was ripe.
Went with my son for haircuts and ice cream. How to select flowers for wimmin. The best way to load the dishwasher. How to make a bed with precision.
Money doesn’t buy that.