It really comes down to accepting Gods design and not rebelling against it. Like any other sin, we have to ask God to heal us, and to help us be victorious over the besetting sin, the practice of homosexuality is the sin, not the feelings.
Heal me, LORD, and I will be healed; save me and I will be saved, for you are the one I praise. Jer 17:14
This is the simple answer; the complex one is that by the time the person comes to accept the idea that intervention is needed (their life is so goofed up by then) there can be a horribly thick web of sinful habit. Enjoying rape-like acts (giving or getting) is quite likely intertwined with “rageaholism.” The sex gives a kick and the anger gives a kick. And at the bottom of it all may be some genuine wrongs suffered and some genuinely ignorant bumbles, as well as some willingly believed or made lies. Simple churchianity is of little or no use here at getting rid of the monkey on the back. Careful spiritual counseling by an empathetic yet orthodox Christian counselor can be of help in disentangling the sinner.