Its all about the perpetual outrage with the militant lesbians. About a year back my cousin and her “wife” refused to accept a loan from a bank because the bank had no legal definition for gay marriage. The bank was willing to give them a joint loan but they threw a tantrum and walked away.
I have a friend whose lesbian sister and her “girlfriend” are exactly the same. Always looking for a reason to be offended, and God help the family member who doesn’t kowtow to their lifestyle.
Their “perpetual outrage” is about the wounds, the abuse, the bonding problems, or just the struggle with the flesh they won’t deal with in the first place.
Homosexuality in general seems to create emotional immaturity: selfishness, pettiness, short time horizons, etc.