I am almost seventy years old. Growing up my sister was considered the pretty one while I was thought to be the smart one.
As a fourteen year old I remember my dad commenting, "Don't worry so much about how you look, being smart is better than being good-looking any day." Sadly I assumed that my father did not think I was pretty.
So again Vendome, thank you for posting this Dove video.
Just read your home page and without having seen you I can tell you are a beautful woman.
Besides, yer a Freeperette and all our gals are purdy.
God made men and women, not men and almost men, or women and almost women.
Scientists tell us that it is the influence of estrogenic chemicals in the human growth and development which make women different from men. Perhaps, but without a softer side to humanity, our species would probably have gone extinct long ago in a flash of outlandish competition.
I've been married twice, and divorced trwice. The first time I did not understand hwat it means to cherish the softer side of humanity. Second wife got way more cherishing than the first, but that marriage also ended.
People grow apart because of circumstance. And some people separate because it is the bettere thing to do ... and I will not publicly go into that one any further.
What is to be cherished in a woman, by a man or men (as in fathers, grandfathers, husbands) is the very essence of what God women to be. Sadly, our modern age has coarsened women, diminished the worth of the softer side of humanity.
YOU are what God made you to be, and that is a beautiful thing regardless of the outward trappings. And as my wise Jungian Analyst Aunt once told me, "if you settle upon a life mate because she is beautiful and sexy, make sure that's as shallow as you intend to be, because as you grow older your own depth will extend and shallow will not suit you then. ... And it may be that she will grow deeper, faster than you will. It can get pretty lonely when your projections onto the other walk away leaving you only memories."