I don’t get it. I had one brother at home. My kids have (currently) a total of nine in the house. And yet, they seem to have no drive to achieve independence. Even my 16-year-old, who’s going to be a National Merit Scholar, is looking at in-state universities. At his age, with my test scores (better than his!), I’d drawn a circle 1,000 miles in diameter and wasn’t looking inside.
And I wasn’t hungry, either. I just wanted distance. How can homeschooled kids who do nothing but gripe about their constrictions not want some distance, and go for it when it’s within reach.
Elen can sing in Spanish. If she learned half a dozen songs, she could make more than I do as a wedding-and-funeral soloist, because she has a better voice and more free time. One of the other girls in the homeschool association has a recording contract at 16 ... admittedly, she writes her own songs, but Elen could be working every weekend as a guitarist/soloist, if she wanted to.
It beats the heck out of babysitting!
I have two girls. The oldest is going to college, but will be commuting. She should graduate without owing any money. All she needs is a piece of paper to be a teacher, and that's what I told her. So we're getting the cheapest one.
I've told them both that I have no problem with them living at home before they get married, as long as they work, pay rent, and put some money away.
That would be a lot harder to do with nine. I don't have any advice for you. Maybe by the time they get to their early 20s, they'll be ready to go.