Let me inject....
Many a father wouldn’t have hesitated in shooting a fellow hiding in their walk-in closet.
Likely without stopping to interview them about some possible relationship with the daughter.
My post wasn’t saying what she did was wrong. She thought she was defending herself. I was questing the “oh well” attitude of the post I was responding to. Most people would wind up feeling bad if they figured out they killed their daughter’s boyfriend who was just trying to hide.