Righto. I have people who’ve been friends for many years, and I’ve never discussed my sex life or sexual preferences with them.
The oddest thing about this article is its assumption that for “gay” people their sexuality is the most important thing in their life.
That said, gay people (men, anyway) should discuss their sex life with their HCPs because of the multiple additional health risks and challenges such a lifestyle creates.
I know one homosexual man - anyone on FR would consider him a good guy, if they didn’t take the sexual orientation into account. Never triggered my gaydar except that he had no awareness of me as a woman. It took him about two years to mention a friend of his and another year before I realized that friend lived with him as his partner. In that time I must have mentioned my husband a few dozen times. Maybe it is hurtful if you can never mention someone dear to you, but that was his choice; most homosexuals I know are pretty open about it; they mention a partner by name early on.
Other people might have loved ones they can’t mention either, a mistress, a second wife, a secret child - might want to see before they die in the hospital, but can’t upset their first family.