[a fool in paradise]

"Gays have always been able to marry. But I fail to see how society is strengthened when they are forced by convention to marry someone whose body is unattractive to them, whose voice isn’t what they want to hear in the morning or whose touch may be as grating as sand in the bed."

(from her editorial)

Hmm. Explain Robert Mapplethorpe who repeatedly shagged Patti Smith for years even after he'd started experimenting with men and S&M.

Plenty of supposedly "gay" men are obsessed with women. Perhaps Andy Warhol turned queer because of predators in the art scene and horndogs who worked hard (including Dylan) to get Edie Sedgwick away from him. He lost his virginity somewhat "late" in life according to the documentary about him.

The homosexuals who seem to have an aversion to vaginas appear to have "mother" issues.

Plenty of homosexual men running around with drag queens DRESSED as women, sometimes even with breasts surgically affixed. If you don't like the equipment and the trappings, it seems far fetched to believe that they were "born" looking for "crossdressers" and "surgical post-op transexuals".

[SoldierDad]

Points well taken. There may be a small percentage of these people born with a predisposition towards sexual deviance. However, there is no evidence of a “gay” gene, and, considering the extremely small percentage of people engaged in this type of behavior, it is, in fact, a disorder. There are people born with a predisposition for schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, depression, borderline personality disorder, narcissism, etc. Society does not (yet, anyway) call these things “normal” variants of the human condition. Pedophiles and sexual offenders may be born with a predisposition for those behaviors, but are we contemplating calling those behaviors a variant of normal human behavior? I think not.