We used to call promiscuous men rakes and expect them to be responsible for spawn....even if bastard.
It is to some degree a double standard based mostly just because discretion and chastity are more valued in women than men....and women bear the fruit.
I think women today are rather unhappy....nothing has worked out...not promiscuity...not career....not competing with men.....not having a pliant hubby and so forth
Strong bright passionate women don’t need some hipster mamas boy who will let them drive
They need Steve McQueen meets John Wayne or Lee Marvin...a stronger man to envelope them and give them security but not cower or be intimidated by a head strong gal
Nor can girls do the sleep around thing like men....inevitably their heart will enter into it....its their nature and reflective of the invasive intimacy that is at the center of it all..
The only women I have ever seen content for simply sex for sex sake have been married mommy type women ignored by their husbands and made to feel undesirable at home and just thrilled to feel desired again
Otherwise girls can’t help getting attached to who they sleep with pretty fast
Males can indeed....keep it sexual only...which is lamentable
I believe we did not have the customs we had since Mt Sinai by accident
But because...largely they worked
That younger freepers think women were always this loose is the zaniest notion I have ever seen here
Given the fact that unlike them I was there seems to have little effect on their heartfelt canards
Truly amazing
Women are likely 30-40 times more likely to have sex in high school now than in 1949
My mom told me maybe 2 girls out of 40 in her sr class lost their virginity then before marriage
My folks engaged in 51...married after dad finished VMI in 55
No sex...but as mom said...extremely heavy petting
It was different world...not perfect but far better than now esp for kids
This is a major diversion from leftism
They view that era as evil. Sexist and oppressive
My own grandmother told me when she and my grandfather were ‘courting’, he’d come to her house on Sunday after church. Eat dinner with the family and they’d sit around on Sunday afternoon and talk. Always with family present. Or, the whole family would pile into a car and they’d go visiting.
That was really her only opportunity to have time with ‘a boy’. Not that they didn’t see each other at church. And the occasional large gathering like a family reunion or revival.
She certainly wasn’t allowed to leave with him, alone.
Once they got engaged, he DID take her to town for ice cream. Her kid brother, 8 years younger IIRC, was allowed to go also. None of this alone in a car with a boy business. And her daddy knew exactly how long it took to go to town, buy ice cream and return to the house.
Older people weren’t under the impression that every kid did it so it’s ok if yours does it too. The whole ‘we can’t stop them we might as well just accept it’ idea was not even in their brain cells. The parents knew exactly what would happen if their boys were alone with girls. And vice versa. Biology happens. Not all the kids, certainly. But why chance it?
There wasn’t this whole ‘I don’t want her to think I don’t trust her’ business I’ve heard from kin. Of COURSE you don’t trust her. She’s FIFTEEN. She can’t vote, drive, own property in her own name, sign a lease, sign a contract or rent a car. Why on earth would you trust her to make sound decisions about sex as well? Geeze. She’s got all the hormones and none of the judgment yet. Why have a parent if they’re not going to be a parent?
I’ve heard it said that college students don’t even bother to date anymore-—dating is an outmoded concept. They just “hook up”, and if something comes of it and they’re not too drunk to remember each others’ names, maybe they might hang out together. Maybe not.
And that is a recipe for disaster, especially for the girls....because as you say, wardaddy, females can’t divorce sex from emotion the way males can. The girls are going to get their hearts and minds messed up badly, and they’ll never understand why.
I feel sorry for girls today. Look at what they have to choose from. Young men look so strangely feminine and delicate. I don’t know, maybe it’s the hormones in the meat. But think back to the days of the Marlboro Man commercials. Do you see males who look like that nowadays?
I’m blessed. My husband is one of those real Southern men who always likes to be behind the wheel and who won’t let his wife pump gas. I admit it....I like feeling safe and cared for.