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Their lot was much easier than hers, since she had to work to the point of exhaustion to pay for her education, and they didn’t. Of course they had more time and energy for studying than she did, since they didn’t have to hold down two jobs.

This is why your daughter will make out much better in life than most, including those Hispanic women.

Society constantly castigates whites for ascending to the upper levels of business, but they never consider that those people often had to fight and slog through life. Whites don't have handouts for being a special color or a special background. There are no scholarships for being of Scots-Italian heritage. There are no grants for having an SAT score in the 93rd percentile while being the first in your family to ever go to college. There are no loan waivers for being brown-eyed and fair skinned.

Like your daughter, I worked several jobs in college. I was a bouncer and a cashier. I slung beer kegs at a local grocer on the weekends. I tended bar and helped local bands get set up in the student union for a free concert. I tutored high school kids in English and French, and I volunteered at a local hospital. None of these things gave me a leg up on the left-handed adopted gay black kid or the Iranian lesbian from a single-parent home. Matter of fact, they often showed up at the club or the store or the grocer at which I worked.

Bottom line is that the more hardship we see in our youth, the more we appreciate life and hard work when we're older. It makes it easier to recover when we lose a job or have to struggle that little extra bit for groceries or to pay the mortgage. We don't need handouts. We're self-sufficient, and we learned that through adversity. Diversity doesn't mean you're owed anything. Nowadays, it often means you had more things given to you, and in the wild, that laziness could mean your undoing.