I don’t disagree with you at all about her accountability. Truly this woman had no lick of common sense to get herself into this predicament. To call her a “lady” would be a stretch. The men who took advantage of her were no gentlemen, neither were the ones who stood by and did nothing to help.
A lady would know that alcohol plus strange men don’t mix. She would avoid underage drinking and limit her alcohol consumption to moderate amounts only in the company of trusted family and friends — not strangers.
Also, I don’t think having a chaperone around at these parties is such a bad idea.
They weren’t “strangers”. She thought they were her friends.