[CynicalBear]

So do you talk to your relatives who have passed on also to have them pray for you? BTW, how do you know they are in heaven?

[Mrs. Don-o]

I have done so at the grave of my mother, and with all my heart: "Mom, please pray for my boys, your grandsons." I am confident that she is in heaven, that she loves us, that she prays for us though of course she's not canonized. She trusted God all her life; He would not abandon her.

Nevertheless, if (hypothetically) she were a damned soul, my prayers were not wasted. No prayer is ever wasted. God hears every prayer, even the unspoken ones. Surely you know that.