Take away the right of the parent to paddle their little butts and you get a generation of “little savages”.
Take away the right of the parent to paddle their little butts and you get a generation of “little savages”.
Primitive and untrue.
You do not need to beat people in order to civilize them. I am not opposed to spanking in 100% of situations but in 80% of situations, hitting children doesn’t civilize them. You do not civilize by fear but by desire. They should want to grow up to be happy, organized, fair, decent, kind, and effective like you are, their hero.
A little swat on the tush when a child runs into traffic is perfectly fine. You want fear there, because that kind of fear will save their life. Beating them in general for being toddlers makes them weaker and meaner. The best people are the ones who choose goodness out of meaningful desire. It takes getting through the youngest years and putting up with baby behavior, with love and amusement and patience. No child is ever loved too much.
Never expect more out of a little child than their age allows, and keep them in a safe home environment where they have safe freedom to explore, most of the time. If you truly accept them as the babies and new little people they are, their behavior will be “good.” Change your perspective if not. Preschools are storage units for the most part. Not a good atmosphere for MOST kids.
You are right.
Yesterday I went into a beauty supply store to return an item. The only other customers there were two women and a little boy. The little boy was running around, hollering and screaming, and pulling things off the shelves. It’s a small shop, and that yelling really echoed. The checkout girl was repeatedly interrupted in her work by the kid running behind the counter and pulling on her arm. And the mother never ONCE said a single word.
When I was a kid, I tried that kind of thing with my mother...once. She paddled my rear end right then and there, and I never did it again.