Charles - I find the response the Wild Rose Farm questions reasonable. 3 1/2 acres is small for thoroughbreds - but maybe not for other less active breeds and access to trails would be needed. Ms. Lewis’s book has been out for some time and the the photo from the defunked web page is clear from the same location as referenced in Goggle maps. This may have been an unnecessary tangent of inspection.
So back to the question of Neil Heslin.
Was he a stepfather as Uncle Chip says? Meaning did he married Scarlett Lewis/Burke and then lived as a family and then they later divorced? Absolutely no account uses the term ‘stepfather’. So what drove the response of a ‘stepfather’.
Or was it as you say a ‘hook up’ situation? No marriage, no formal connection? 37 seems be a little old for this admittedly more common situation but its in the realm of possibility. But there is no legal connection then how is that Neil Heslin gets credibility as ‘the father’ with no inspection by the press.
You gentlemen have provided two completely different answer to the simple question - why do father and son have different last names. Both can not be true.
From what is seen it would appear the later matches. Had Neil Heslin been a legal ‘stepfather’ that is likely how he would have been identified as such and not as ‘father’.
I'm sorry I forgot my question marks in that response: "???".
It should have been: "Stepfather???"
Is that better.
Oooops -- -- sorry -- forgot them again:
Is that better???
Well aren't you lucky. You get to choose which one solves your mystery.
I won't be offended if you choose Charles' solution to your deep dilemma. It's a magnificent one that I hadn't thought of.
So take your pick.
It will just be nice to know that another Sandy Hook mystery has been solved and we can all rest from our suspicions -- for an hour or two.
I doubt he is a stepfather. That would imply that their was some other father, and that Heslin adopted the child (although sometimes people use the term “stepfather” more colloquially, if the guy moves in with the mother, even if they don’t marry and he doesn’t adopt). And since the public record seems to show she hasn’t been married in the past decade, if Heslin wasn’t the father, then there is some OTHER guy she wasn’t married to who IS the father, but who isn’t involved — and it would be weird that the biological father wasn’t involved, but some unrelated man called himself the “father”.
We can be pretty sure Burke wasn’t the father, since that divorce is way longer ago than the conception of Jesse.
I think it much more likely that he is the biological father. I don’t see why this is considered odd. Guys, even 37-year-old guys, like sex. He only had to have unprotected sex once with her. So it is quite likely she is the biological mother, he is the biological father, they never got married, maybe never even formally lived together, and are not now actively seeing each other.
It does seem clear that he was involved in the child’s life. I don’t know if the records that would indicate child support are public, so I don’t know if he was or was not paying child support. I’m not sure I WANT it to be easy for random people like us to get on the internet and learn the details of legal arrangements between a mother, a father, and a child.
I don’t know about Uncle Chip, but I am mostly speculating on these threads. I mean, I find actual links to things, but I don’t know these people, and I don’t have access to private records, so I’m not giving you facts, I’m telling you the WAYS in which what we observe could be true and make sense.
So I don’t know the relationship. But I see nothing in the public record that is contradictory, or strange, about this particular group of 3 people, or their lives on a farm with horses.
I know people are mad at Mr. Heslin for being against the 2nd amendment, but I think one can be a real father and still be stupid about the 2nd amendment.