That’s just exactly the mindset motivating terrorists to commit mass murder.
Contrary to your implication, the difference is that the US didn’t TARGET innocent women and children, the US shot at strategic military targets (including during the “Shock & Awe” attacks).
The Islamist nut jobs specifically target women and children for MASS MURDER.
There is a significant difference between shooting at the soldier, but hitting a woman AND shooting at a woman to incite the soldier!
Then we’d better have it out.
One side uses kids as cannon fodder and embankment and the other side protects them. Guess which side we are on.