There’s a book called “Weedless Gardening” that might help a lot.
I cut down on weeding by putting down heavy-duty landscape fabric, and planting in holes cut in it. There are a lot fewer weeds, and they’re usually small. By about mid-summer the garden shades out new weeds pretty well.
Starting around June, most of my time in the garden is spent harvesting and hilling up. My strawberry patch is pretty small, but it still produces more than I can keep up with.
Growing your own is never as easy as buying it from the store, but it shouldn’t be quite as hard as you describe.
The landscape fabric works very well for tomato and herb plants, as it holds much needed moisture in near the plant roots while the are just seedlings and prone to dry out.