I am sorry your daughter is disabled.
But why do you feel the taxpayer owes you anything for the care, treatment, and socialization of your children?
A tax break is the same thing as “government funding”.
A tax break is a far thing from government funding.
I don’t think I should pay taxes to fund public school that my kinds don’t use.
I don’t think I should pay taxes to fund healthcare for other people and then have to also pay for it for ourselves.
I’m funding everyone else but don’t have enough for the correct therapies for my own family.
On top of that Obamacare just limited flexible spending accounts.