You are describing actions that are expected of every decent person.
Who would abandon their ailing wife or ailing mother?
Why should Lee receive adulation for observing the absolute minimum level of personal honor?
Lee was a man of great character, with a tragic flaw, and certainly deserves admiration on many fronts - but it is bizarre to say that he should be admired because he did not abandon his wife and mother.
What other great men in history did that?
Another great man in history, the heroic William Tecumseh Sherman, also tended to his foster mother and his wife in their dying illnesses as well.
Also, many millions of others who are not "great men in history" have taken care of their families.
Sherman was neither great nor heroic. He was a common butcher killing, burning and raping women and children. He was the lowest form of filth this nation has ever brought forth.
HOW DARE YOU EVEN BRING UP HIS NAME IN THIS THREAD MUCH LESS COMPARE HIM LEE!
Sherman gave out of his own pocket to any destitute ex-soldier who knocked on his door for year following the war.
I understand the love southerners have for Lee, especially now. We see virtuous behavior among leaders almost as alien these days.
Sherman was a POS butcher who brought abject terror and misery on the innocent population of GA. May he rot in Hell.