I agree, but the problem I find is that many women lack the hand strength to operate the slide on a semiautomatic. I took my wife to the range and had her fire my 9 mm semi and also my .38 revolver. She decided she wants a 9 mm like mine.
A few nights later I removed the ammunition from my weapon and asked her to pull the slide back. She couldn't do it. I then took a round out of the clip and showed her how to insert it into the clip. Again, the spring was too strong for her.
I think I'm going to have to get her a revolver rather than a semiautomatic. If any knowledgeable FReepers have alternative suggestions I'd love to hear them. I want a weapon she can carry in her pocket book and can handle. I thought of a Ruger LCP, but the recoil is a bit powerful on that piece.
You have to get her to think “bigger” not smaller.
The heavier the slide, the less need for a badass recoil spring.