PS When the child comes of age and searches for his or her father, it is not the state or a lesbian or a judge the child desperately yearns to find. It is the man who supplied the dna, period.
This entire mess is due to the Title IV-D laws (use your fav search engine)
WHERE is the "Equal Parenting Time Enforcement Unit?" Instead, the average "middle class" (usually) caucasian man has to spend tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees trying to preserve his basic parental rights which supposedly are guaranteed to him on the divorce decree. The rights that the mother almost instinctively keeps blocking by denying visitation
But we do have a "Child Support Enforcement Unit" that collects matching Fed funds for every "child" support dollar collected as an incentive never to grant a downward modification to the (male) payor, despite non-voluntary unemployment (laysoffs etc)
We also have the "Child Protective Services" agency that takes daddykins away in cuffs should he try to provide fatherly guidance for Junior/Suzy. This is a helpful tool for mommykins to exhert her universal sovereignty over the child(ren) should daddykins dare provide boundaries for "her little man/her little princess."
ESPECIALLY true if mommykins discerns that daddykins has decided to "move on." REAL child abuse is terribly dangerous and politically incorrect to pursue.
The ULTIMATE in taxation without representation.
(P.S., I'm a 52 year old divorced female who had two--now grown and productive--children. I never received child support, but somehow managed not to alienate the children from dad) So your ideas MAY have been valid back in the early EIGHTIES but they are no longer the case.