“Kids just don’t get it, if you parent is gullible enough to pay your tuition (especially to a $$$ private school) then they own you, it is an investment and they expect a return, that being success.”
Not always.
When my son went to college, I paid his tuition with the following understanding: I hired him to go to school. If he underperformed (failed) then I would fire him.
He did and I did.
He then went to work in a customer service industry and soon found out it is harder to work for a living than to go to school. He then put in his own time and dime to finish his Associates degree—proving to me and his mother he was dedicated to completing his degree. He then asked to be re-hired to finish his degree. I re-hired him.
I re-hired him under the previous conditions and he did very well.
He graduated and is happy and on his way in the world. . .and this parent (and wife unit) do not own him or expect anything from him. . other than he be responsible and a good citizen. . .and an occasional Mother’s Day card.
That is basically what I meant. They are an employee and are expected to produce. They can be fired outside of basic necessities.
I am teaching my 15 yoa daughter that now, she doesn’t like it when the gravy train dries up like cell service is cutback to a minimum (like 300 texts a month vs unlimited), allowing her to participate in extra-curricular activities that cost money, and the occasional perk like iTunes cards and some $$ to go shopping on a weekend dry up when grades/behavior fall below my documented expectations.