They have decided to let her go back and re-evaluate in the Spring. This issue really has caused quite a disrupt with the parents. Initially, the Dad suggested she come home and Mom said, “She isn’t doing anything that everybody else isn’t doing”. Then Mom wanted her home and Dad pushed to let her pull herself up for one more semester. What is somewhat unusual is this girl has always been bright, respectful, well behaved and wouldn’t go to a University that offered a partial scholarship because it was a known “party school”. I guess the child that initially leaves isn’t necessarily how the child will remain. I agree that they need to put it down in writing. That way, “I don’t remember that part” isn’t a factor, is it?
Just my two cents worth but I feel that parents that pay the tuition or other items have a “say” in what is expected. Don’t get arrested, don’t get on “academic probation”, do as well as you can grade wise and get a part time job to help with costs isn’t a huge list to ask for. Perhaps I hold this belief because I worked close to full time to help with costs and knew that my widowed Mother was busting her butt as a nurse to pay the tuition. With two younger brothers needing items, I knew my tuition was a family sacrifice. Thus, I tried to earn this “gift” with good behavior, grades and worked as much as humanely possible to pay for gas, car insurance, car tires/oil, my own clothes, food, etc.. I didn’t see my four years in college as expected... I saw it as an investment in my future and financially... it was a risk to my Mother and younger siblings.
“They have decided”...
Are you familiar with these people?
Really. It doesn’t sound like they’re in a position to “let” her do anything whatsoever, and that they may maneuver themselves into the slammer if they insist on the knuckledragger psycho routine.
They seem to need a couple years cooling off period.
I had a little of that with my son, his first year in college (although he had always done very well in school, worked part time jobs, was in sports) was a struggle for him to settle down and apply himself. But he was smart enough to recognize that, and enlisted in the USMC, did his four years and two Iraq deployments, came home and got married, decent full-time job, bought a house, got a dog, had a baby, then graduated college in 2011, a couple promotions. So maybe she will get her act together.
When my daughter was in college, struggled with some of the classes, and at one point suggested that she might take another year to finish. I told her it would cost her a full year’s salary that she would not yet be earning, plus a full year’s cost of college expenses on student loans (because I had committed a certain dollar amount to her college costs, however long it took). When put in that context, she got herself to an advisor and had a plan in place a few days later to retake a class at community college, get some hours in summer school, and graduated in four years (BRN).