Unfortunately, starting with “Can we” removes it from the threat category and makes it a dumb question instead. The old “plausible deniability” thing.
Like when I ask “if the SHTF, do we start at the top and work down, or at the bottom and work up?” No threat, only a dumb question.
It could be argued in a court of law...The intent, however stated (or in writing), is arguable...
“Can we...” is like asking pe4rmission from someone(s) to do what you desire to do in the first place...