Since moving to North Carolina isn’t an option, I suppose all you can do is accept that it’s not your fault what a state or country decides to make legal. Most things in life are out of our control.
If the kids weren’t so inextricably tied to the State of Washington (i.e. court orders) we would be headed 135 miles east to Lewiston, ID. It is a really nice place on the Snake and Clearwater Rivers even apart from the more conservative leanings of the population.