I wouldn’t mess around, you need competent legal counsel or you run the risk of getting yourself in deeper doo doo. When I listen to Rush on WLS I hear ads for this Jeffery Leving “Dads Rights” all the time. Realize the financial aspect is a problem but I’d urge you to give them a call and explain your situation and how your present lawyer is treating you. All lawyers do a certain amount of pro-bono (free) work, and since this firm specialized in fathers rights, you’d be right in their wheelhouse. Good luck!
stoopid finger forgot to paste the link: http://dadsrights.com/
bigbob, TitansAFC
Jeffrey Leving is VERY expensive and not especially good.
You have several problems in my opinion and you need to do certain things immediately.:
1) fire you present counselor, he is the one that enabled you to get where you are,
2) represent yourself pro se as it costs nothing but filing fees,
3) read and understand the divorce law statutes, they were written for a reason,
4) subpoena any witness who the wife may have shared here plan to slander you and get them under oath in the discovery process.
5) get character witnesses, your boss, church members, neighbors, her relatives that will vouch for you in writing in a deposition under oath.
6) record everything she says and make a make a written log with extensive notes of what occurs and when.
Those that say you can’t record a conversation with your spouse are wrong wrong wrong. There is a very special instance where a judge will listen to a tape record of your conversation, even one illegal in every; and that is to directly refute what some one claims in open court. For example, if you former spouse stated that on a certain date you swore and threatened her with bodily harm - you would ask the judge to listen to recording which directly contradicts what she said, in chambers. Their counsel will howl to the moon but the judge will be curious and has the absolute power to listen and will rule based upon what he hears.
Most important thing fight back do not let it just happen.
PS You should be able to get some friendly advice from a sympathetic attorney friend or acquaintance that can help you with the pro se filings.
You can sign me been there and done that.