while there is some truth to what your girlfriend said.
You must also consider the fact that the next drink or drug fix you enable could be that persons last. I don’t like the idea of being partially responsible for someone’s death.
The trick is not to substitute our grace for that of God.
As with all things, he proper way to perform that good work is to be in the right place, at the right time, and perform it in the right manner, through faith in Christ and let God do the work in the heart of the person receiving the gift.
In most cases, we’ll never see the consequences until the bema seat judgment.