I have been with her 24/7/365 for the last five years for all practical purposes. I fix a lot of our meals now. I don't plan to stop eating. Do I want to change her diapers? Of course not. I doubt she wanted to change mine but she did. I would be here for her without making the promise. She asked for the promise so I gave it to her.
You do a great job of taking care of mom. I know since I am lucky enough to talk to her. My sister put my dad in a nursing home after a stroke so he could learn to walk again. He was already using a wheelchair & basically the nursing home did what is called granny napping. They refused to release him although we had aides in 24/7 when we couldn’t be there. Of course they wanted the house etc. He was quite able to fix meals etc. We tried to fight them but it was clear they wouldn’t release him even if I moved into his house.