So you think it's HER fault, do you cdcdawg? How dare a late middle-aged woman LOOK like a late middle-aged woman.
I'm sure that if she'd had a tummy tuck, a butt lift, breast implants, a facelift, had her thighs lipo-ed, dyed her hair, had her teeth capped and gotten contact lens, her husband wouldn't have succumbed to a beautiful woman 20 years younger who made it clear she was available.
Her having his children, moving 23 times in 36 years to advance his career, nursing him through getting shot, breaking his pelvis and cancer treatment during their 36 years of marriage didn't count for much, did it.
She'll probably forgive him because that's what committed spouses do. However, I just hope she realizes that it'll take at least 5 years before she'll go a day without thinking about it multiple times.
No, I do not think it is her fault. I’m glad it gave you the chance to vent, though. You obviously needed to. What part of “that doesn’t excuse his behavior” did you think left open the possibility that I actually did excuse his behavior, and placed the blame with her?
Now, be honest, if she looked like Ann Romney, you would have been more shocked. Of course it’s not at all a fair comparison, because the Romneys are both genetically gifted beyond us mortals. Still, if you would have been more surprised, then you really don’t disagree with me.
It’s not a matter of her competing with a much younger woman in the looks department. She can’t do that anymore than he (or I, for that matter) can physically compete with younger men. She looks like she doesn’t care. I know it’s the 21st century and feminism happened and all, but if a woman makes some basic effort to look good for her man, it goes a very long way. Not because she looks better than a potential rival, but because she make the effort for him. Same goes for guys who turn into fat slobs who neglect their wives. How many women married to a general a generation or two ago would step outside the house looking like she does? You’ve come a long way baby!
It might not have mattered. He might just be a cheater. Just to be on the safe side, if your significant other is physically fit, and cares about his/her appearance, you might want to do the same.