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I would like to learn more about the veracity of this conjecture. Anecdotally, it does not seem to be true in California. Most single women seem quite happy in that state and I sense no desperation from them in needing to find a marriage partner, at least if they are under 30 or so (and so at that age they have had 12 or so years to find a partner). I’m not a woman but I presume finding a marriage partner is not terribly more difficult than finding a boyfriend (which seems to me to be a lot easier than for a guy to find a girlfriend, or maybe I am just missing something lol). Also this seems to be a worldwide phenomenon, at least in industrialized nations, excluding certain minorities, some of whom tend to marry early and some of whom don’t marry or divorce but have kids anyway.

I sense no desperation from them in needing to find a marriage partner, at least if they are under 30

I’m not a social scientist, however my own observation is that most women are not overly concerned about marriage until they reach 25. Then the level of concern increases proportionally with age. After 30, their biological clock starts ticking and the sense of urgency goes into overdrive. At that age, they become actutely aware they’re no longer as desirable as their younger counterparts.

Men, on the other hand, tend to get more desirable as they mature and become more successful. For men, the peak age is probably 38-42. Before the age of 25, women tend to have the upper hand in relationships. After the age of 30, men call the shots.

When I was in college (last 70s, early 80s), there were a lot of women who were actively trying to bag a husband before they graduated. In fact, I think many went to college just to get their MRS degree. But I don’t think that’s as prevalent anymore.

But, hey, maybe CA is so different, that that has changed too.