That's the social feedback loop. The load issue is the fact the first post cannot get posted.
If I was sitting in a room trying to give an opinion to the rest of the group and they didn’t hear me the first time I don’t repeat myself over and over for the next hour like a stuck record player.
If you cannot get your post in then you just cannot do it, the universe may be nothing but opportunities of timing but that doesn’t mean losing a comment will shorten your life.
I must have deleted a million comments over the years because my reply takes too long, I just dump the page and hit the FR portal page to start over.