Sorry, but some folks like to live in vertical hives and I don't. I listened to New Yorkers, watched their media, and observed their ideas about their surroundings. You are most welcome to NYC, but there are more people who look at its culture, shake their heads, and walk away. See ya.
People have a tendency to think they “know” New Yorkers because they walk through Times Square and maybe hit a couple of tourist traps. Others, having scant or no contact with New Yorkers also draw “conclusions.”
I left NYC more than 10 years ago. I'm now in rural WV. The start of each summer, a snowbird visits me on her way back from FL. About the third year, while at a neighbor's BBQ, we were told by my buddy's wife, “You two, you're not like New Yorkers.” I smiled and asked her, “Oh, how many New Yorkers do you know? What you see on Law & Order, Friends, Sienfeld and the rest of TV are NOT New Yorkers.”
Sure, you hear and read stories about some pretty weird stuff that goes on in that town, but you jam 8 million people into 5 small counties ANYWHERE and you'll prolly see the same. Plus, NYC has the added benefit of all those from around the country who come there and after 3 months call themselves New Yorkers.
As I said, I'm living in WV for a little over ten years, but no way would I make any such blanket statements about West Virginians as you and others, with far less experience, have made about NYC.