You have an excellent point. A woman that trains for years and reaches the pinnacle of human physical development has about the same strength as an average male with no training.
In over 20 years of taking the Army Physical Training test, I've never seen a female do more than about 20 pushups, (the average is around 10 I'd say, and they absolutely struggle just to do that.) Not once, in 20 years.
Your claim that there are women out there that put men to shame on the benchpress? Suuuuure.
From my 20+ years of experience watching males and females exercise and take physical fitness tests, women aren't just a little bit weaker than men, but dramatically so.
The average 20 year old woman has the same lung capacity as a 70 year old man. (Men have 30% larger lungs. The rest of the organs are larger or the same size in women.)
Average female strength is typically 37% - 66% percent of male strength depending on muscle group.
Women's blood contains 20% fewer red blood cells, giving women less endurance and making them more prone to fainting.
Accident rates among women increase faster than men when working longer hours.
Of course, women outlive men by 3-4 years.
I don’t want to call BS, but I have a hard time believing you, especially as the APFT requires females (aged 17-21) to perform 19 push ups in order to receive a passing score. Watching ROTC cadets perform the APFT over a two year span, I’d say the median push up count for the female cadets was around mid 30s to mid 40s—not what you’d expect from the average man (given the mimimum of 42 push ups), but nowhere near the 10 you state. I don’t remember a single one performing anything less than mid 20s or so. So, unless my experience was abnormal or you were surrounded by remarkably unmotivated and/or incredibly weak women over your 20+ year career, I think you need to have your memory checked.