It isn’t ugly at all. It’s a trained observation. I’ve served as counselor on alcohol wards in veteran’s hospitals and with military communities.
It is the FIRST place you’d want to go with a recovering alcoholic. It is absolutely essential not to deny reality about the recidivism of alcoholics. Alcohol is tough enough to beat without loved ones continuing to be enablers by pretending that problems are not extremely common or are some kind of attack.
It’s slander.