People don’t get married and divorced based upon statistics. While I understand your frustration about the 50% vs 30% thing - I assume it has to do with those people divorced multiple times figuring in; a statistical blunder only if the stat is reported at 50% of people not 50% of marriages. Clarification would be appreciated. It bears noting that there are some even scarier statistics bandied about in my world – as a parent to a special needs child – where the divorce rate is astronomical; around 75% or so. I’ve read it over and over again WRT parents of autistic kids or just parents of special needs kids.
Turns out, that statistic is wildly overstated as well, but it pops up in the media (and in the “community”) all the time. I have no idea what purpose it serves though. Honestly, I don’t.
I can see one purpose the inflation of divorce stats among couples with special needs kids might serve - if the child’s anomaly can be detected in utero, abort or it will cost you your marriage.
To spur abortions of possible special-needs babies? Just a guess, but it would certainly fit the agenda.
Maybe it’s higher than you think? I won’t pretend to know jack about marriage survivability with special needs children, but I can offer that the chances of divorcing within a year of bankruptcy is four fold of that of a marriage where the finances haven’t completely collapsed. Stress obviously plays a significant role here.