Its called dating, its where you vet your girlfriend to see if she is wife material. It’s not too hard, generally you determine if she has a desire to stay married (most God fearing woman have this desire) and have kids. Spend a year judging and taking notes. Don’t have sex, that clouds the vision.
Wholla, 2 years later you have a wife that you can hopefully trust. Been with mine since I was 17, told her from the word go that I was looking for a good wife not a quicky. Married 2.5 years later and going to celebrate 19 this year.
Guys are dumb and think with the wrong head. Not judging cause I know that sometimes the wrong thing happens. I also know what happens to kids born in those situations, my parents never date anyone longer than 2 weeks before they decide to get married. Can’t really count how many times they have been married cause some of them only last a couple of weeks.
You dated your wife for 2 and a half years without fooling around?