You are hovering/helicopter parent....Jeesh... you son is 14 ...you are not allowing/teaching him to be an adult when you go with him to his friends house.
Why on earth would I cut the cord to a 14 year old and let him “learn to be an adult”?/watch porn
What I meant was allow your kids to grow up w/o you watching their every move...let them make some mistakes and learn from it...if you are teaching them decent morals they won't go too far of the path. Let them figure it out on their own.
..............and where did I say young kids watching porn was a part of being and adult and growing up..because I didn't.
He can learn to be an adult by doing a man’s work around the house and yard.
Kids doing work around the house and leading in prayer does not make them adults...sorry. Maybe gives them a work ethic.
Samiam1972, By watching your kids every move and not allowing them to watch TV and making decisions on their behalf instead of them doing it on their own YOU are not teaching them to be responsible..you are doing it for them..What you are doing is showing you kids a "craft" and then making the craft for them instead of letting your kids get their hands in there and doing it themselves...Think about it..
BTW I was one of the kids from a super strict home and I was one of those who rebeled....I know more about this than you do.
trailhkr1, I appreciate your concern for MY children and how they are raised. You do not have ANY idea about my kids or their situation. I talk to my kids all the time when we see other kids/adults making stupid choices. If they notice first, we discuss it. Sometimes I point things out to get their reaction. They are not stupid.
Having a strong work ethic and being responsible for other human beings does not make him an adult but gives him a strong foundation as he gets older. It certainly gives him a better chance than if I let him play video games in his room all day long and then suddenly expect him to know how to care for himself when he does leave home.
I seriously cannot believe you are giving me, a mother of six children, parenting advice just because you did not respect your parents when you finally left home and chose to be a child instead of an adult. Not all kids do that. Believe it or not, I was once a child/adult away from home. Rebelling didn’t interest me. I was smarter than that and found most of the things my roommates were doing to be pretty silly, childish, and without purpose. Most led down roads I had no desire to follow.
I go with my kids to most play dates because I like the moms and we hang out when the kids play. We don’t live in a normal neighborhood and there aren’t any kids around for my kids to just run over to someone’s house. There are too many kids in this house for me to hover and watch their every movement and I don’t want them out roaming the streets without purpose. My oldest son goes camping with the Boy Scouts every month because I trust him and the families in our group. Another bunch of sheltered homeschool kids. Oh, the horror!!!!
I control what I can and pray for God’s grace for the rest. Again, please look me up when you have teenagers and let me know how it goes for you and how giving them access to things that are meant for adults is some great idea. I would love to hear how your kids turn out.