[Oztrich Boy]

Particularly, this hit looks it might be near the stern, meaning the destroyer would have had the right-of-way. That said, it's lights out for the destroyer skipper.

Nope. It's forward. You can see the octagonal SPY-1D radar array at the top of the picture, which is on the forward superstructure.

So forward, starboard side, making the tanker the stand-on vessel, two ways (Three if you count manouverability)

[norwaypinesavage]

I should know better than to make (not so) educated guesses about ships here.