My son and his wife decided that he’d stay home with their twins for their first few years, and he did but she didn’t respect him either, and she cheated on him and left him for her boss.
Sorry to hear that. I have heard of other similar tales of wife cheating on him while he stays at home. I think some here are kidding themselves about this issue.
A woman will also say she doesn’t want anything for her birthday but woe on the man who actually believes it. My wife was the one who came up with the idea for me to stay at home. I worked a crappy job the first few years of marriage so she could move around and move up into something good.
It didn’t take much more than 30-45 days for her to change her mind and start commenting on me staying home. At 6 months, I went to a temporary agency to get back to work as soon as possible and I have never entertained the idea again. Even though I was watching out for her mom and sister, she was jealous of the fact that I did not have to go to work every day as she did.
Call it jealous, lack of respect or whatever but she did not like it. Like I mentioned in another post, she would bring it up in arguments for 5 years after. Women HATE the idea of you staying home while they work. They may tolerate it if they know you are looking actively for work but otherwise they will resent it even if they don’t tell you outright.